When I bought my stole of gratitude for graduation, there was only one person in my mind that I wanted to give it to and that was you. Making the decision to move 13 hours and 56 minutes away from you was not an easy decision, but it was something that I had to do. I had to move away in order to take care of myself, to learn, and to grow and you understood that. When I called you crying 2-3 times a day questioning whether or not I had made the right decision, you reassured me that I did and that this was where I was meant to be. Not once did you suggest that I move back to California. Instead you encouraged me to “suit up and show up” a lesson that you taught me.
When I told you that I was going to major in Women’s and Gender Studies, you didn’t roll your eyes, question me, and make a snide remark. Instead you told me how happy you were for me that I had found something that I was passionate about. When I asked you to sign up to be apart of the HeForShe campaign, you did so without hesitation. You never said, “Let’s talk about something else,” when I wanted to talk about politics, Planned Parenthood, religion, race, gender, sexuality, or feminism. We do not always agree on every issue, but we always come to a place of mutual understanding and respect. When I came out to you and told you that I was bisexual, you did not question me. Instead you believed me, you supported me, you told me how proud you were of me, and how much you loved me no matter what.
Back in May, when I was on the verge of a breakdown, and I called you 2-3 times a day crying hysterically, you were there to talk me down. You listened to me, were patient with me, and I know that if I had asked you to be here with me, you would have found a way. You were the first person I called when I found out I got into graduate school. You are the one person I look forward to talking to every single day. When we don’t get to talk on the phone, no matter how amazing my day might have been, it always feels just a little bit off if I didn’t get the chance to share it with you.
Thank you for being my #1 fan, founding member, only member, and President of the Alexis Renae Griggs fan club. I love you, Dad. Much much.
Happy Father’s Day.
Alexis Renae Griggs